“Relationship Reflection”

Relationships in early childhood are very important because it helps it helps a child discover who they are and how they should treat others.  Generally, it is the parent (in most cases) that the child comes in contact with first.  The child develops a certain attachment from the parents, whether it is secure or inconsistent.  There is a poem that I love that tells you why children are the way that they are:

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn . . .

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight . . .

If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive . . .

If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself . . .

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy . . .

If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt . . .

BUT

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .

If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative . . .

If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love. .

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves...

If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .

If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .

If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . . .

WITH WHAT IS YOUR CHILD LIVING?

 

I have always had a positive relationship with my parents.  I am so grateful that they taught me right from wrong at such an early age.  They taught me the Bible and what is expected of me.  From my father I learned how a man is supposed to treat me, and anything else is unacceptable.  From my mommy I learned exactly how to be a lady (Godly Lady).  Both of my brothers have always been there for me, no matter what I needed.  My BFF has been there for me to comfort me, and just listen to my problems whenever I needed her.  I am so forever grateful for all of these people that God has placed in my life on a daily basis. 

However, some relationships are harder than others.  There are some people who I thought were my true friends have let me down.  When times get hard, you tend to discover who is around for the long hall and who is only there for a season.  The problem is that there are some people in your life who are only meant to be there for a season.  When there season is up they are gone.  This is one of the reasons why you should never place your trust in “man”.  People are not perfect and they all make mistakes (even me), but it is so important that we remember to forgive them so that we can move on.  You never know when your expiration date will be and you want to have all of your ducks in a row when it’s time to expire.

I think that if Head Start had a positive relationship with the Boys and Girls Club, Girls/ Boys Scott of America and other organizations like that it would benefits all companies and everyone would get something out of it.  This would be a smooth transition for children and positive effects would develop from it.  Often time’s children get into trouble because they are bored with no challenge.  But if there is something available for them, they have no choice but to succeed.  My goal is to become a director someday, and at that point I plan to build positive long lasting relationships for the children in my program, providing them a better opportunity for the future.